The third of February

Give charity from the heart with sweetness and selflessness^*

And tact. Some people don't like to think of themselves as needing charity. I suppose you'd call it pride. If someone refuses charity, then it's probably not a good idea to try to force it on them. Continuing to be their friend is still a good idea, though.

Perhaps it would also be a good idea to accept charity with gratefulness and humility when you need it, and even when you don't need it, if it'll help significantly.

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